Awaken your strongest self

Awaken your Strongest Self

I read this book called Awaken your Strongest self by Neil Fiore an year ago and it really had a big effect on how I have lived my life after that. It has made me stronger than I was before. These are the notes that I made and I just wanted to share these with everybody.

Identify these areas in life when you face them. Simply work on identifying the words and feelings that arise

1. Stress and fear
   
2. Inner conflict and procrastination
   
3. Feeling overwhelmed and confused
   
4. Self criticism and self blame
   
5. Struggle and loneliness
   

Exercise- Get your Fear Inoculation shot

Confront the most difficult and stressful situations by doing a mental rehearsal and observing your feelings and reactions to avoid anxiety, self doubt and avoidance of that task or situation.

Bird eye view- It means looking at yourself from a third person's perspective.

Five qualities of your strongest self

1. Safety replaces stress
   

• Physical danger- Send a message of safety
  
• Psychological threats- Send a message of Worth and connection
  
• Future or past threats- Send a message of Presence. Fire alarm example.
  

 

1. Choice replaces inner conflict
   

The examples

• Two year olds want what they want
  
• Six year olds are bound by the rules and limitations of the society
  

When faced with inner conflict take the decision from the role of your higher brain and an action that is congruent with your goals and visions.

Exercise- Notice and listen for words that accompany strong wants, resistance and dictatorial should.

Notice which voice you hear first. "You should" or" you want to".

And after noticing choose what you want to do according to your choice.

 

1. Presence replaces feeling overwhelmed
   

• Center on the present and start on one small step
  
• Create a four dimensional view and blueprint
  
• Shift your role to that of a leader
  

The centering exercise

1. Notice your breathing and inhale for a count of three.
   
2. Hold your breath for a count of sixteen, tighten your fists and pull your navel to your spine
   
3. Exhale slowly to the count of four to six releasing all the muscle tension.
   

NOW I AM AWARE OF EXERCISE

Become aware of your surrounding and feelings that come into you when you feel bad or negative

Look at all the things from your eyes and notice everything in the environment. Be there.

 

1. Focus replaces self criticism
   
   1. Observe and identify the feelings when you are not focused
      
   2. Shift your focus to your goals by saying FOCUS HERE NOW.
      
   3. Do the Breathing exercise for 10 times.
      

 

1. Connection replaces lonely struggle
   
   1. Act as a coach to unite all the parts into one.
      
   2. Remember all the exercises and know when to use at what point.
      

   
    

Stages of Change and self efficacy

1. Committee meeting
   
2. Sit comfortable with your eyes closed and look inward- See yourself as the chair person controlling the meeting with all the inner voices as the members of the meeting.
   
3. State your goals, vision and mission to all your inner voices and ask for cooperation
   
4. Invite all parts to take part and have their say in the meeting
   
5. Answer all the questions that come into your mind
   

 

4 Stages of Change

1. Making up your mind
   

• It's dangerous to remain undecided
  
• Imagine 5 years have passed and visualize your situation
  
• Just notice your thoughts and the things you want to change
  
• Take small breath when you crave for something
  
• What are all the things that you want to change in yourself?
  

 

1. Committing to change
   
   1. Do mental rehearsal
      
   2. Mental maps
      
   3. Bird eye view
      
   4. The MOVIE Example
      
   5. Plan every aspect
      

Taking action

It's not the destination but the journey that counts.

First few steps of change are uncomfortable and filled with discomfort.

Action Plans

1. When?
   
2. Where?
   
3. What?
   
4. How will you perform?
   
5. How will you remind yourself?
   
6. How will you keep to your commitments?
   

 

Behavioral Statements

• Goal
  
• Deadline
  
• Daily action
  

 

Example- Priming your brain for success

Theater with movie screen divided into 3 parts

1^st part Present

2^nd Future self

3^rd Transition from present to future

 

1. Maintaining long term success
   
   1. Don't let couple of bad days ruin your hard work.
      
   2. Bouncing back from setbacks
      
   3. Mark your calendar for 30 days and 60 days mark
      
   4. Reawaken your strongest self to re-choose and recommit to your goal
      
   5. Don't forget to use the tools gained from this book
      
2. Prepare Coping Plans
   

Coping plans tell you how you will cope when obstacles arise.

They are similar to preparing for a natural disaster.

DO mental rehearsal as well

• Write 3 barriers or distractions that can keep you from performing your goals?
  
• Write down what you will say?